Some children want a hug during a meltdown, while others prefer space. (Photo: Freepik)Imagine you’re shopping for groceries at a mall when your child suddenly throws a tantrum in the middle of the laundry aisle, screaming that he won’t budge until you buy him ice cream. People stare –– some roll their eyes, some offer unsolicited advice, and others just walk past, silently judging. You feel embarrassed, frustrated, and unsure of what to do. If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone, and you’re certainly not a bad parent.Tantrums are a normal part of childhood development. They’re your child’s way of expressing overwhelming emotions they haven’t yet learned to regulate. Let’s understand why tantrums happen.Children under 13 are still developing the ability to manage emotions like frustration, helplessness, and irritability. A tantrum is often the result of an over- or under-aroused nervous system. Sometimes, it can be as simple as a hunger cue –– your child spots a treat and reacts impulsively. Recognising that your child isn’t trying to embarrass you but is overwhelmed by an emotional storm can help shift your response from frustration to empathy.What can you do as a parent?Don’t mistake crying for ungratefulnessMany new parents, already exhausted from giving their all, can feel disheartened when their child still seems dissatisfied. It’s important to remember that young children see the world as an endless source of comfort and curiosity. Gratitude and understanding of parental sacrifices come only with age and experience.The next time your child cries, don’t see it as ingratitude. Instead, use the moment to explain your own emotional limits. Try using a relatable metaphor: two toy cars –– one that runs quickly on full battery, and another that stops when the battery is drained. Let them know that just like those cars, you also need to recharge to function at your best.Offer comfort, not controlSome children want a hug during a meltdown, while others prefer space. Respect their needs, but stay close to provide reassurance. Say things like, “I’m here when you’re ready for a hug,” or “You’re safe, I’ll sit with you while you feel this.” This reinforces safety without escalating the moment.Ignore judgemental stares and commentsYes, people will stare. Yes, someone might offer a snide remark. But your job is to support your child, not perform for onlookers. Most seasoned parents have been in your shoes. Tune out the spectators and focus on your child’s emotional needs.© IE Online Media Services Pvt LtdTags:Children