Asking for a free nanny is a problem. Needing help as a parent is not a problem. The husband clearly isn’t pulling his weight, and the number of kids one can handle can change over time, with one’s circumstances, and with each new kid. Asking for free work is a problem. Taking advantage of someone is a problem. Requesting help at all is not a problem. Hired help is still help. Downvote all y’all want. The fact that you had to pretend I said asking for help means asking for free help says it all.