Reminds me of when i was 6 and sitting at a wedding reception of some relative of narcmother. She then finally gave me a food for the first time that day . A pack of fruit snacks. I manage to eat one but then narcmother sees some random 3 or 4 year old girl sitting a feet away, and commands me to give my food over to this stranger. I admittedly didn't bc i was hungry and now food was again threatened to me. So she ripped the food out of my hands and i just watched her as she went over to the stranger making nice small talk here are some snacks, let's find your favorite flavor! You know things she never said to me. I didn't even cry, i just sat and watched this bullshit. And admittedly, I'm not a fan of sharing 4 decades later. Sorry not sure why this brought that memory for me.