A woman who goes by @lazyfacedmom on TikTok has shared details about her ex-husband’s behavior after she underwent a 14-hour brain surgery to remove a growth from her brainstem. The video, part of a series she calls her ex-husband’s “secret double life,” has been viewed more than 606,300 times and has received over 68,300 likes. In the TikTok video, the woman says she wanted to answer questions from viewers about whether there were warning signs before her divorce. She explained that her ex-husband had a serious drinking problem, saying he would drink “a gallon of whiskey every other day,” and that this was already known within their relationship. She said the surgery took place while she had a 5-week-old baby at home. According to her, her ex-husband was supposed to stay with her at the hospital during her recovery, but was not there when she was moved into the ICU after the operation. Husband was reportedly away from her hospital room after surgery The woman said that when she was wheeled into the neurological ICU following surgery, a nurse told her, “Your dad’s here.” She said she had not wanted anyone besides her husband present, but her father had come to be with her. When she asked where her husband was, she said a nurse told her, “Oh, he’s down the hall talking to a lady.” @lazyfacedmom Red flags #divorce #singlemom #doublelife #redflags ♬ original sound – Ann M. She said hospital staff then had to ask him to check on her, telling him, “Can you please come in your room to check on your wife? She just got out of brain surgery. They just scooped a golf ball off of her brainstem. Would you like to check on her?” The strain on partners during medical crises can be significant, like this woman who went in for a 10-hour surgery and received a heartbreaking call about her husband on a motorcycle trip. After returning home from the hospital, the woman described her physical condition. She said her head had been shaved and cut for the surgery, one of her eyes was sewn shut because of facial drooping, and she was unable to talk, walk without a walker, or eat on her own. Despite her condition, she said her then-husband held a party at their home with 50 guests. She said she felt “propped up like Weekend at Bernie’s for all to see,” and that guests praised him for taking care of the family. She said guests could “give him compliments and gawk at me like a circus freak.” She said that during the party, her ex-husband became too intoxicated to help care for their newborn. When the baby began crying, she said she asked him multiple times to bring her a bottle so she could feed the child, since she was not supposed to lift anything heavier than a plate after her surgery. She said he ignored her requests, and when she tapped him to get his attention, he “kicks me away.” The woman said she then moved off the couch and crawled across the floor to reach her crying baby. She said she carefully lifted the baby from the Moses basket and slid him onto the floor beside her, then made a bottle using her walker before returning to feed him while sitting on the floor. She ended the video by saying that despite the incident, she continued to handle household responsibilities on her own. She said the party and her ex-husband’s behavior were among the warning signs she had been asked about by viewers. Post-surgery recovery can reveal a partner’s priorities, as seen in a separate case where a husband chose a new car over his wife’s cancer treatment. The video’s comment section included reactions from viewers. One commenter wrote, “I can’t believe 50 effing people didnt have common sense.” Another asked, “Who were the awful people that came to that party…” Other commenters shared broader reactions to the story. One wrote, “Men will ALWAYS show their true colors during a health event.” Another questioned the relationship itself, writing, “why would you marry an alcoholic and expect him to care about you more than alcohol?” The woman has not shared additional details about the timeline of her divorce or further context about her ex-husband’s response to these claims.