Gender Agenda Newsletter | What masculinity really means - The HinduUpdated - September 18, 2026 10:04 pm ISTLast week the internet was split, as usual, on what was served at the BRICS banquet hosted by the Prime Minister, with one group saying we are a meat-eating country with great food diversity, which had gone unrepresented. The meat-eating group also went on to talk about how if the PM had a wife the menu would have been better. One woman also said a diplomat’s wife would have done a stellar job of menu setting. This gender-fication of roles – woman as menu-setter, man as diplomat – ties both genders to poles they may not want to be tethered to. Setting a menu or diplomacy are both skills that don’t come with little blue and pink tags attached to them. A survey in India by the Harvard Center for International Development found that boys were brought up to believe that their “worth as a man” depends on their “ability to provide, to be strong, and never to show pain.” The results of the survey, ‘Beyond the Manosphere: What Young Indian Men Actually Want from Masculinity,’ were published in August 2026. It also found that “in an economy where youth unemployment has doubled in a generation and where stable jobs are increasingly out of reach,” rigid norms are creating a taut, tense society. Men between 15 and 29 reported feeling “down, depressed, or hopeless”. But here’s the thing: “Most men surveyed privately desired a more expansive vision of masculinity.” Not the sort of masculinity of entitlement that asks 1.4 billion people (or more if you count zealous NRIs) to celebrate your birthday by lighting a lamp, as the Prime Minister asked us to do. Not the sort of masculinity of aggression that deliberately runs women off roads, as the man in a Gurugram car did to a woman on a bike. Not the sort of masculinity of menace that physically clamps down on a woman protester, as Steven Kolb, the president and CEO of the Council of Fashion Designers of America, did at a New York Fashion Week show. All of this goes back to how we bring up boys, what behaviours and practices we reward, and what we expect from them in return for putting them at the centre of the universe. How do we change the idea of masculinity as physical and economic muscle? By addressing this at all levels of society: parents, teachers, workplaces, even governments. At home, let’s give both girls and boys equal access to dolls and balls, let’s hold boys when they cry, let’s tell them that no matter what they choose — finance or fashion — we are with them, we are proud of them. They are not our old-age insurance policies to be taken for granted. Nor are they to be sold to the highest bidder in the marriage market. They set the table, put their family’s clothes for a wash, and buy onions and potatoes from the vegetable vendor. Only then will women and men see each other as equal participants in the home and in the world. But also, for us in the media to capture narratives of men who are allies, who champion their daughters as they do their sons, who stand by the women in their lives as they break the norm. Then, men will begin to look up to role models who see masculinity as expansive, as a fluid state of being, not a rigid pole to cling to.TOOLKITBRICS Feminist Watch, formed in 2017 as a network of scholars, activists, and policy practitioners, working through a gender-justice lens, put out a policy brief for BRICS leaders during the 18th meeting of the summit. Through it they take up three areas: energy and transitions; labour, care, and economic security; and development finance. “A feminist agenda asks whether energy transitions redistribute power and assets; whether labour policy recognises unpaid care and guarantees decent work and social protection; and whether development finance strengthens public systems, community control and ecological justice rather than reproducing debt, extraction and inequality,” the policy brief for BRICS leaders says. ‘Gendering BRICS cooperation: A feminist political-economy agenda for energy, labour and development finance’ reiterates that “BRICS must move beyond simply including women within existing economic models.”WORDSWORTHPolyendocrine Metabolic Ovarian Syndrome (PMOS)Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS) was renamed PMOS earlier in 2026, by a global consensus, with an article published in the Lancet. The long-term hormonal and endocrine disorder affects one in eight women worldwide. It took 14 years and 56 societies to make this change that will affect patients, treatment plans, and research. OUCH!We apologised for having carried an advertisement for Dera Sacha Sauda, which spoke about a conspiracy against the sect’s leader, Gurmeet Ram Rahim Singh, who has been convicted for rape. WOMAN WE METFirst-time filmmaker Vijaya S Nambiar, the director-writer of the short Sootradhaarini, talks about her excitement at being selected for the Atlanta Indian Film Festival. Vijaya, an engineer, uploaded the 20-minute film on YouTube on March 8, International Women’s Day. The film features women from a single building, all not professional actors. The story features the group of women who decide to celebrate Women’s Day by exchanging saris. They must give away a sari that is special to them. “It is easy to give away something you don’t like or don’t want anymore. But when you give away something significant to you, that giving is more. It gives you power!” Vijaya told our reporter, Shilpa Nair Anand. Published - September 18, 2026 09:01 pm ISTSign in to unlock member-only benefits!Access 10 free stories every monthSave stories to read laterAccess to comment on every storySign-up/manage your newsletter subscriptions with a single clickGet notified by email for early access to discounts & offers on our products${ ind + 1 } ${ device }Last active - ${ la }