A New York City woman says her first Hinge date turned into one of the worst dates of her life, from a silent outfit judgment at the door to a comment about calories at the dinner table. Margot Lee shared the story in a TikTok video that has gained 789,000 views and 73,500 likes. Lee said she does not usually agree to dinner on a first date, but she picked this restaurant because she thought the man did not drink based on his Hinge profile. Her cousin, who works in hospitality, had warned her not to go to that particular restaurant. The date started poorly, according to Lee. She said the man texted her that he was five minutes late, even though she had already told him the same thing. When they walked in, she said he looked her outfit up and down without saying anything about it, then tried to take the better seat at the table before she moved to sit there herself. The conversation turned to her job and his phone Lee, who owns a stationery business, said the conversation quickly moved to what she does for work. She said she told him she works in social media, and his response was that he does not have Instagram, something she said turned out to be false since he was on the app later that night. She said this made her feel bad about her job, something she has worked on for 15 years. @margot.lee The date that just kept getting worse and worse what was your favorite part? Mine was when the waitress chased us outside. #dating #good #datingstorytime #hingedate #datestory #datenightmare ♬ original sound – margot.lee At dinner, Lee said the waitress recommended several dishes, but the man ordered items she had not suggested and did not ask Lee what she wanted. Lee said she told him she did not want anchovies, and he ordered fish anyway. When the waitress suggested they order more food since they had little on the table, Lee said the man told her he was not hungry, prompting Lee to ask, “you invited me to dinner, do you care to even ask me if I want to eat?” Lee said the man also asked to check his phone when they sat down, then spent close to seven minutes on it without explanation. When she asked what he was doing, she said he told her he was looking for a file to send someone but could not find it. She said he did the same thing again later in the meal. According to Lee, the man was a difficult conversationalist. She said he mentioned he had been to Burning Man six times, and when she asked him to tell her about it, he told her to watch an HBO documentary instead. She said he asked her where she grew up and where she went to school, then made generalizations about both places rather than asking more questions. As the food arrived, Lee said the man ate very little, took one piece of salad, and said he felt full because he had eaten a large lunch at 4 p.m. When Lee pointed out that he had a dinner reservation at 8 p.m., she said he replied that restaurants always push people to order more food. This is not the first time a Hinge date has gone poorly, as one woman said her date’s mother called her a bad choice for a self-respecting man. He then brought up the calorie count of the meal, saying, “oh, like this is probably 3,000 calories.” In the video, she responded, “Oh my God, dude, you made the dinner reservation! I didn’t even want to do dinner.” She also said that she asked the waitress to take the food away because she did not want to leave so much of it on the table. When the check came, she said the man paid with Apple Pay and asked if that was acceptable before doing so. Such dismissive behavior on first dates can take many forms, as when a New York woman says her date tried to mansplain her incurable disease for 20 minutes. Outside the restaurant, as they waited for their separate rides, Lee said the waitress came out to tell them the receipt had not been signed and that no tip had been left. Lee said she believed this was intentional, given his earlier comments about the restaurant “hustling” them. She said his Uber arrived first, and he left without waiting for hers. Lee said she was also supposed to go on another Hinge date that night but canceled it because the man had not asked where she lived when picking the date location, which she said was far from her and not a good spot for a date. She said she plans to delete dating apps and will instead give out “acquaintance cards” to people she meets in person. Many commenters shared their own reactions to the date in Lee’s comments section. One person wrote, “This guy is red pill. There are at least 5 things he did that are red pill tactics.” Another said, “Some men purposely bully women on 1st dates to see what they can get away with.” One commenter offered support, writing, “Sorry that happened to you, young queen. You should’ve hit him with the lemon law and walked out. Keep the faith!” Another questioned one part of the story, writing, “So you’re allowed to show up late but he BETTER be there sharp and waiting for you at the table? I’m not discounting the other red flags but my goodness what are we even talking about.” Others shared advice based on the experience. One wrote, “Once they start texting or checking their phone I purposely do not touch my phone for the entire night to make them feel terrible about themselves.” Another commented, “Ladies let’s normalize immediately leaving when the vibe is bad. Strangers aren’t entitled to your time!”