Two months ago, I gave birth to my beautiful baby girl, who was stillborn at 28 weeks. It was the most heartbreaking and traumatic experience of my life, and honestly, I still don’t know how I made it through. I had suddenly developed severe complications from preeclampsia and gestational diabetes, and I ended up in the ICU/L&D. I was physically exhausted, terrified, and completely devastated because I knew my baby girl wouldn’t be coming home with me. I don’t want to put anyone down, but my doctor only showed up during the last 10 minutes of my labor, delivered my baby, barely said anything, and left shortly after. But the nurses… oh my God, the nurses. ❤️ I genuinely don’t think I would’ve made it through that day without them. There was one nurse in particular who was with me while I was delivering. I swear she was an angel sent to me that day. I remember being so broken that I just wanted to stop pushing. I didn’t want to keep going. I didn’t even care what happened to me anymore. But she wouldn’t let me give up. She kept encouraging me, helping me push, talking to me, and reminding me that I could do it. She was there for me during the absolute worst moment of my life, when I felt like I had nothing left in me. And it wasn’t just her. Every single nurse who took care of me showed me so much kindness, patience, and compassion. They didn’t make me feel like just another patient. They made me feel like I mattered, like my baby mattered, and like my pain mattered. I don’t think they’ll ever understand how much that meant to me. I know nurses deal with so much every single day, and I know they probably go home exhausted after taking care of people like me. But I hope they know that sometimes the smallest things they do stay with someone forever. Now that I’ve had a little time to process my grief (although I don’t think I’ll ever fully heal), I’ve been thinking about going back to the hospital just to thank them. I wanna find the nurse who helped me deliver my daughter and let her know how much she meant to me. I don’t even know if she remembers me, but I’ll remember her for the rest of my life. So my question is, especially to the nurses here: Would it be weird if I stopped by the hospital two months later to thank them? I’d love to bring something for the whole nursing team, but I have no idea what’s appropriate. Food? Coffee? A handwritten card? Something else? And can I bring something "more special" to the nuse wgo helped me during labor? Or would that be seen as rude🥹? I just want them to know that even though they couldn’t save my baby, they helped save her mom. And that means more to me than words could ever explain ❤️!   submitted by   /u/Scholar1995 [link]   [comments]