I think your friend is an asshole for what she said, but I remember when I was pregnant with my first it was a difficult time. My husband and I were young, just finished college and broke. I was terrified about everything. My health insurance that I got through my husband wouldn't cover the pregnancy because I got pregnant before he got his job. It all eventually worked out. Baby is now 30, got rid of the husband 25 years ago.Lol Maybe your friend has some real troubles and is just acting out. I don't know, honestly. Just a thought.