Offering to help isn’t an open invite to come over and basically put a post-it on everything she wants. “we purchased a hand-smocked outfit from a local artisan to celebrate baby’s 6 months; and my goal is to keep it for them as memory, maybe even something they can hand down to their own children in the future.” That outfit should be set aside for memories or put aside for when your baby (long long from now ) has a baby. Tell your friend to slow her role. She gets what you offer her not what she chooses. Your house isn’t a thrift shop for her pregnancy