Problem/Goal: Context: Previous Attempts: i’m currently staying at my friend’s house, where i live with her, her brother, her kid, and the baby’s nanny. at first, sobrang awkward talaga namin ng brother niya. nahihiya ako sa kanya, and kahit na he’s actually a nice person, i couldn’t help but feel very awkward around him because of the way he carries himself. he has this intimidating facade na parang laging masungit, and he’s not really the talkative type either. most of the time, tahimik lang siya. he socializes with us naman pero bihira lang talaga. i even had a bit of a traumatic experience with him because there was one time na sobrang nagalit siya, and it genuinely caught me off guard. ever since then, i became even more conscious around him. months passed, and eventually, he got my whatsapp number so we could communicate more easily about the household bills. from there we started having personal conversations. then one night, out of nowhere, he asked me to go out with him. surprisingly, i didn’t hesitate to say yes kasi before siya nag ask, may mga convo na rin kami na saamin lang. i got to know him a bit more. little by little, my impression of him was changing. he didn’t seem as intimidating as he did when i first met him. we slowly became more comfortable with each other everytime it's only just the two of us around. although we’re both adults, we both find it a little surreal to think about how things turned out. na nung una, natatakot pa ako sa kanya and sobrang ilang ako whenever he’s around, tapos ngayon, we have this thing going on between us. it’s such an unexpected turn of events, and sometimes, we can’t help but laugh at how different things are now compared to when we first met. just to make things clear, we’re both single and free to do whatever we want. we have a huge age gap, and he also has a child. from what i’ve seen, he seems very responsible naman. we’ve been keeping whatever’s going on between us from everyone at home. there have been nights when we would sneak out to do things that only the two of us know about. it’s exciting, but at the same time, it’s hard to believe that we’re actually doing all of this behind everyone’s backs, considering how awkward and intimidating things were between us in the beginning. at this point, i can’t help but feel guilty because i’m keeping this whole thing a secret from my friend. she welcomed me into her home wholeheartedly and made me feel comfortable staying with her family, so the fact that i’m hiding something this significant from her doesn’t sit right with me. i feel uncomfortable knowing that she’s been nothing but kind to me, yet i’m keeping something from her that she probably deserves to know. hindi ko kasi masabi kasi sigurado ako pag sinabi ko sakanya baka ma awkward ulit ako dito saamin, at to be completely honest nahihiya rin talaga ako. should i tell her? :(   submitted by   /u/holysaint_   to   r/adviceph [link]   [comments]