Holiday hosting disputes are a familiar source of family friction, and one husband says his situation has gone further than most. In a Reddit post by u/filofriday in r/AmItheAsshole, the man says his wife’s parents want to stay at the couple’s new home for several weeks around Christmas. The request has reportedly opened a rift between him and his wife. The in-laws, who are retired and currently traveling the country for a year, have previously stated they plan to spend all their money, leaving no inheritance for their daughter. Despite their apparent financial success, the in-laws seem to expect to use the couple’s new home as a base during the holiday season, according to the poster. The situation reportedly escalated when the mother-in-law messaged the wife asking to stay for three to four weeks over Christmas. This is said to be the only time the couple has off work together with their two-year-old child. The mother-in-law apparently sees the new property as an open invitation for an extended visit, as there is more space. When he said no, his mother-in-law reportedly pulled out a list of everything she’d done for her daughter When the husband pushed back on the request, the mother-in-law reportedly provided a list of things she had done for her daughter. She also apparently suggested that refusing the stay might “make things difficult moving forward”. According to the poster, the wife initially offered a compromise of one week, but the mother-in-law reportedly kept applying pressure. AITA – in-laws expecting to stay with us byu/filofriday inAmItheAsshole The dispute seems to have divided the spouses, as the wife feels guilty about disappointing her parents. The in-laws also reportedly expect another week in the house while the family is away on holiday, which the husband finds uncomfortable. He says his home is being treated like a hotel, a complaint that echoes a mother-in-law’s six-week stay in another dispute. The requested stay would appear to exceed far what most hosts accept, as a Talker Research survey found respondents would host in-laws for about five days, compared with eight days for their own parents. The same survey suggested most people are only happy to have any guest stay for about six days. Even so, almost half of respondents said they want to be the house everyone gathers at for the holidays. Previous interactions appear to have set the stage for these tensions. Before the in-laws left for their trip, they reportedly suggested the couple move into their property as caretakers, a request the couple firmly denied. The mother-in-law also allegedly mentioned wanting to stay with the couple halfway through their trip, which was met with a suggestion to book alternative accommodation. According to the poster, he maintains that the in-laws’ choice to rent out their own property and travel is not his responsibility. He notes that they appear wealthy enough to easily book an Airbnb or other housing if they want to visit their grandchild. He is now questioning whether he is overreacting by standing his ground. He says he feels they are painting him as the villain keeping grandparents from their grandchild. However, he claims he wants his own space during the holidays. Commenters on the thread largely sided with him, with many suggesting the in-laws are acting like bullies and that the couple may need to present a united front. One commenter wrote, “NTA. But you have a wife problem in addition to the in-laws problem.” Much of the advice focused on the wife, as several users suggested the pressure could continue unless the spouses agree on a limit together. One person asked whether the couple was sure they were “as wealthy and secure as they project,” and said something seemed “very off” about the insistence on multi-week stays.