Do you prefer someone to obsess over, even if they aren't that obsessive, but they love you and they can handle your intensity? or do you expect them to be obsessed with you as much as you are with them? The first sounds like it would not last for too long because I might start getting paranoid with the lack of intensity and ruin it, but the later feels too selfish of me to ask for and rare to find............... anyway I might be overthinking too much   submitted by   /u/Adventurous_Spot1173   to   r/Obsessive_Love [link]   [comments]