Weird way to find someone who fits all this because it's actually doable if you go about it the right way. My wife just hired a 24/7 caregiver for her mom. She went online, read about agencies, wound up on a church web page and found a man, whose wife had passed. He was rich so he started a caregiving company to honor her memory and would pay the caregivers himself, if that was needed. Some people have insurance for caregiving that will pay for this. He also does the caregiving himself but is retiring and is taking my mother in law as his last client. He fits this description perfectly and will be paid from MiL's insurance.