It’s not nitpicking. Your assumption is clearly that most single moms are in that position because they’re a piece of shit and/or the dad they chose is a piece of shit. There are way too many scenarios that turn someone into a single parent for you to ever judge them for it. You’re the one who went out of the way to say it’s her problem she’s single without knowing the reason. The problem here is the begging and that’s the whole point. I hope someone judges the shit out of you at some point without the full picture, since you clearly do it to other people.