Having a stepdad since I was 10 wasn’t easy for me. But in our large family, I learned parenting isn’t about blood. I wasn’t easy to love, but he met me with kindness, compassion and empathy without keeping score. His quiet generosity taught me forgiveness, and that real kinship is earned, not demanded.Research by Lawrence Ganong, Steven Berkley, and colleagues found that positive stepparent—child relationships are supported by behaviors such as spending time together, caregiving, providing support, communicating positively, and building trust. Kindness and compassion can play an important role in building closeness between stepparents and children, although the research does not establish that they are the single “key” to a child’s love.