In my country, adoption is almost impossible. Would absolutely love to adopt one of those kids who needs a loving home, but nope, cannot do it here at all. Not a criticism of OP, but I dont know where these people are from and it seems OP does and knows best about how it works there. But in general, any advice that is 'just do this, it is so easy to adopt this way' is not usually accurate. I have had one person literally roll their eyes at me for doing IVF and go 'just adopt then'. In reality, adoption had been my first preference for having children, regardless of my infertility issues and saying that was so rude and hurtful. Even in places where adoption is feasible, it is a hugely expensive and traumatic experience, and many people will go through years of waiting only to be told that their BMI is 30 so they're not considered a suitable adoptive parent or whatever. It is brutal and there are few winners.