So from reading this, she is talking about not wanting to adopt a teenager. Which I totally understand. First, at that age most of the childhood is already over. This is like saying "I want to watch Movie X" and then only allowed to watch the last 30 minutes. Second, teenagers are hard. Even if they are your own. But there you have kids that started in at least one, maybe two other homes. They have lots of emotional baggage, it's hard for them to attach to a new family. And you will have a hard time teaching them some stuff. If you have no experience with kids this will not work. From the headline I thought this was a "I want a baby and not a small child" thing. Which would have been somewhat strange / not ok. But not wanting to start with a teenager as a first kid.. that I fully understand.