I don't know if this would be better, or worse, or both at once. But I wonder if it's also possible he's harassing this woman and stalking her and won't leave her alone and she (verbally) goes along, to an extent, to just placate him? And that his vision of them living together and her giving up her situation to rely on him, is just his own projection? And her nightmare? A stalker, in other words, or one of those types who reads relationship or love into someone who barely knows them. > This is one time where I hope it’s just a scam and there is no actual girlfriend.