I only got 2 out of this woman's diagnosis (rheumatoid arthritis and Addison's), and a pretty cushy disability pension because of it (Danish privilege), and yet even though I love love love children, I've decided deliberately not to reproduce exactly because I love children, and I don't want them to have the stress and responsibility of having a sick mommy. I can provide all the love, but not the standard of care and economic stability a kid deserves (while I live comfortably as a single person, my benefits would be cut if I ever got married or entered a common low union, and while perhaps doable strictly economically, it would very tight to raise a kid on a disability income even though some people here still choose to do it.) I just know personally that when I can't maintain a scheduled job for even one hour a week, how the hell would I be able to consistently meet my kid's physical needs? I can "work" for more than one hour a week, but I nevee know when, or when I will wake up in pain or halfway to an Addisonian crisis. Should I teach my children to differientiate between chronic and acute pain? To watch out for signs of when to call the emergency hotline because Mommy are on her way to a coma and can't come to the phone herself? Yes, sometimes my heart aches for children. I was the kid in pre-school who helped take care of the kids that was even younger than me, becuase I just loved small kids even when I was one my self! In my teens and tweens while i "only" had rheumatoid arthritis, I worked through the pain, as a babysitter, just because I loved being with them kids so much. I've not given up on a miraculous cure coming some day, but until then, I know that reproducing as my circumstances are right now would be selfish. Instead I spread the love in my heart for my friend's kids, my niblings, my own furry baby. It will never be the same as having your own kid, I know that bond is extremely special. I choose to delight in the people around me that have that option, and support and love them as much as my ability let me. Parents make sacrifices out of love for their children. My ultimate sacrifice is not having them.