I didn't ask if she used it. My point is you don't know the difference between begging or begging and choosing. I have this much to offer for a service that I know costs more = begging I have this much to offer for a service that I know costs more + I need you to have short hair, never had touched alcohol because of some religious beliefs, have to be Christian because it's a Christian house, would be choosing, or height preference or gender etc. She gave no prerequisites. She asked for anyone who would do it, and said it's a shit situation. You're implying she chose to have the kid to have mental ailments. You ever tried dealing with mental illness with no background? She actually didn't request it, she said it was a hope as dealing with mental illness isnt easy. If it was easy she wouldn't need help. Do you hire welders to do carpenter work and consider that "choosey" dafuq?