A little different than my situation. My mom died when I was 2. Had first stepmom that was extremely abusive (married 3 years to my dad from ages 5-8). Dad knew about abuse and let it happen. Had a stepsister that got to do everything while I was routinely left from vacations, trips, family meals. Even though I made perfect grades. I remember when I was 7, got a B on a spelling test and got whipped with a wire hanger so hard my legs bled by her. First time my dad picked a woman over me. They get divorced and he meets my current stepmom about age 12. They get married and she is ok especially at first. Not abusive but standoffish. Still perfect grades, I go to church, keep my room clean, mow yards for money. They also get and have always gotten about $500 a month SSI from my mom dying so I don’t cost much. 2 years later they have their first child. Things change. They get more like a family unit and leave me out. Different than the first but still hurtful. 2nd time he picks a woman over me. I am super depressed and just want someone to love me like I’m their son. End up not going through with Med school and floundering for a few years after college at a dead end job. It all came to a head when my dad invited me on a “family vacation” when my brother was like 7. This would have been the first time I would have ever gotten to go or been invited. I guess he told her after the fact and the next day he came back and said it wasn’t a good idea because there was only one bed and a couch after I requested the week off from work. I absolutely lost it and said everything I felt from the last 22 years then I called her and let her have it as well. This is after I signed my 50% of their house over for $0 so they could build a new one that I would never live in. Turned my entire family against them. Luckily after a cooling off period and introspection on all parties we were able to work it out. Relationship between everyone has changed so much to the point where I now at 38 consider my stepmom to be my mom. She is my go to person for everything. I’m beyond blessed that it worked out this way because I was done after that incident. I would have never spoken to them again. Still it does hurt that my dad always picked someone else over me. I mean I’m not perfect but I have never been arrested, some drugs, I barely drink, college degree, have a great career.