Before I begin, let me state that I think betraying someone is bad. Hurting someone you love – or someone you don’t know personally – is awful. But it happens. We all have the capacity to hurt people we love and we often do even when we don’t mean to. To some extent, I think we all understand this; or more accurately, we are trying to understand this. For example, we can see glimpses of this through the prominence of advocacy for prison abolition since the