Decent photographers were asking 4000 plus prepaid. That was over 20 years ago. Videographers 3000 and up. Always prepaid. With a contract specifying hours and anything else you might imagine, in both cases. And they were always booked solid. They usually do not have time to eat, and the dinner is usually included if they are there during meal time. Wedding dinners are often not the greatest food, so a lot of people skip it. Paying in a catered meal is laughable. Did the bride know the photographer and thought she'd get a freebie?