All UPSC essays are not similar. Though the majority of them are philosophical or abstract in nature, they cannot be answered merely with data, reports, or government policies as fodder. They demand something more from you — your ability to pause, reflect, and translate life lessons — read, heard, seen, or lived — into lucid and thoughtful language.Topics like “Best Lessons Are Learnt Through Bitter Experiences”, which appeared in UPSC CSE 2025, do not test how much you know; they test how deeply you have understood life. One would not be wrong to say that attempting such a topic demands analysis with empathy and an ability to look inward before writing outward.But first, let’s briefly talk about the challenges with such a topic: though it is a simple topic, it demands some level of conceptual depth. It is often seen that aspirants use personal anecdotes to support their arguments in such essays. Is it enough for a UPSC-level exam? No. There is always a risk of becoming over-emotional with such topics. Stay balanced. The essay will hold great value if aspirants aim for multidimensionality here – mythology, history, international affairs, ethics, etc. Caution: only as much as needed.Also, there is always a risk of being overly moralistic and preachy. UPSC essays must be mature in terms of analytical depth and originality. Move beyond clichés.Let’s now read a model essay by our expert and analyse it towards the end of the article, so that next time you can handle similar topics with ease.Best Lessons Are Learnt Through Bitter Experiences (2025 UPSC Essay paper topic)By Pranay AggarwalStory continues below this adIsn’t it ironic that while we all seek success, comforts, and pleasures, but that Great Teacher called Life hands each of us our fair share of disappointments, hardships, and failures? In fact, it is only in those moments of despair, dealing with the harsh truths of life, that we truly, and remarkably, progress. Only if my life were a bed of roses, we wish. Well, it isn’t. And we all are better off for it.Failure can be humbling and painful, but it forces one to identify one’s weaknesses and improve. Who likes to be betrayed? Well, it is only after betrayal that we learn whom to trust. We may not cherish social isolation and loneliness, but it is only during periods of melancholy that one gets an opportunity for self-introspection, so necessary for improvement and personal growth.Success, they say, is a lousy teacher. And rightly so. When we bask in the glory of our achievements, we seldom become better. Instead, there’s a tendency to stagnate, to exaggerate one’s abilities, and overlook one’s shortcomings. Defeat and failure, on the other hand, are far tougher but effective teachers. They bring into relief one’s shortcomings, force introspection and making amends. Modern psychology acknowledges that stressful circumstances, while seldom welcome, can be crucial for personal development. Distress and shock due to extreme adversity can lead to post-traumatic growth. Trying times and shocking events, when one passes through them, help to build resilience, empathy, and a renewed appreciation for life.Struggle and hardship develop inner strength and fortitude. It was only after Shri Ram was banished to the forest, faced extreme hardships and struggles, dealt with pain, suffering and longing for his beloved wife, dealt with her immoral and unjust abduction through treachery, that he could become an exemplar of moral conduct. It’s unlikely that he would have transformed into Maryada Purushottam in the lap of luxury in the palace at Ayodhya. Similarly, Devi Sita underwent a trial by fire before coming to be revered for the purity of her character.Story continues below this adOne of the most feared human emotional states is grief. Losing one’s near and dear ones, for instance, leaves one inconsolable. I remember losing my best friend in a tragic and fatal accident when I was still in middle school. I was completely distraught, emotionally shaken and psychologically broken. I felt lonely, weak, and could not control my tears for days at a stretch. Looking back, that loss, while irreparable, helped me to develop a deeper appreciation for life and for friendships. Looking back, I’d say, it helped me to become a better friend and a better person.Public shame and humiliation are amongst the most detested of conditions of social existence. Yet, they forge character. In the Mahabharata, the humiliation at the game of dice, and the loss of honor, kingdom, and dignity were crucial for Yudhishtir emerging as Dharmaraj.Moral chaos can be unnerving, yet revealing. The greatest philosophical revelation in human history, the Divine Song of the Bhagavad Gita, was not revealed in the tranquil equanimity of a Gurukul. It was revealed to a teary-eyed, confused and lost Arjun in the midst of the battlefield.Quite like people, nations also develop and grow stronger with bitter experiences. India embarked on the project of nation building having gone through centuries of colonial exploitation and economic ruin. The bitter experiences of colonial oppression and the painful partition made us who we are as a nation today – democratic, plural, and secular. Our colonial past has made us resilient, firm believers in Atmanirbhata, and committed to our peaceful rise. Likewise, Japan went through the horrific and bone-chilling destruction of the cities of Hiroshima and Nagasaki, only to emerge stronger. The character of the new Indian republic and the resurgence of Japan, both built on societal determination and collective effort, indicate that those challenging circumstances of colonial rule and world war, were perhaps a necessary trial by fire for our countries.Story continues below this adCivilizations, indeed, thrive on challenges. As the noted philosopher of history Arnold Toynbee details in his monumental work ‘A Study of History’, civilizations continue to grow and prosper as long as they creatively respond to the challenges before them. Absence of challenges, in fact, may lead to stagnation and decay. Though people prefer peace, order and social harmony, it is only when civilizations confront crises that its leadership is forced to innovate, which will lead to its growth.A recent case in point was the crisis unleashed by the COVID-19 virus. While the pandemic was undeniably difficult, unwelcome and painful; it also forced us to innovate, it also enabled us to grow. Public administrations across countries, including in India were forced to respond in real-time. The pandemic forced critical re-evaluation of our public healthcare system and disaster preparedness. The monumental challenge of the pandemic fostered critical thinking, engendered research and development in science and medicine, and spurred creativity and innovation in the ways we organize our collective lives.In Indian culture, we intuitively associate old age with wisdom. Why? Because given the nature of life, over the years, the elderly experience the worst that life has to offer- betrayal, loss, misfortune, and failure. And with these bitter experiences come the invaluable insights they have to offer. Indian philosophy has always acknowledged tapas, entailing extreme austerity and suffering, as necessary for inner awakening. The ancients, in their quest for the Truth, spent years in wilderness. Siddhartha’s suffering wasn’t external or circumstantial, it was internal. He coupled the inner turmoil with external extremes, and emerged as Buddha, the enlightened one.To be sure, not all bitter experiences make us better. While bitter experiences are the crucible, they by themselves do not make us better individuals, societies, or civilizations. For one, one must survive, in order to rebuild. One may be weakened, but must not die. Its impossible to resuscitate the dead. Secondly, the bitter experiences must be accompanied by the crucial catalysts of introspection and critical engagement with one’s situation. They must be accompanied by a willingness to learn, and a yearning to improve. Finally, one must Act – take concrete steps to operationalize one’s learnings. Mere wishful thinking won’t improve one’s situation. In other words, bitter experiences, coupled with Survival, Introspection, and Action – lead to growth and betterment. Then we are far more likely to come out bigger, better, and brighter out of those painful experiences.Story continues below this adIn the ultimate analysis, bitter experiences are not only unavoidable, they must also be anticipated, perhaps even welcomed. They humble the proud, and strengthen the weak. They impart wisdom to the unwise, and make the wise wiser still. They help us to learn from our mistakes, and unlearn old assumptions. They may wound us, but those scars can be worn as a badge of honour, as signs of a life well lived. They offer the best lessons that are rarely pleasant, but always priceless.EXPRESS INPUTPost-Read Analysis of the Essay: Why does this essay stand out?1. Defines the core idea in the beginning: better and bitter experiences.2. Uses a multi-dimensional framework: philosophy, culture, psychology, international relations, economy, etc.3. Provides real illustrations and examples that increase credibility — personal, public, historical, and global.Story continues below this ad4. Demonstrates conceptual depth by mentioning post-traumatic growth (PTG), Toynbee’s challenge–response theory, Indian philosophical notions, etc.5. Includes counter-arguments that acknowledge the limitations of bitter experiences.6. Offers a structured conclusion — optimism with realism.About our Expert: Pranay Aggarwal is an educator and mentor for aspirants preparing for UPSC Civil Services exam. With more than 10 years of experience guiding civil service aspirants, he is acknowledged as an expert on civil service exam preparation, especially on subjects like Social Issues and Sociology. He is the India representative on the Research Committee on Education, Religion and Political Sociology for UNESCO’s International Sociological Association and a committee member of Indian Sociological Society and its committee on social movements. He is also the Convenor of Indian Civil Services Association, a think tank of senior bureaucrats.Subscribe to our UPSC newsletter and stay updated with the news cues from the past week.Stay updated with the latest UPSC articles by joining our Telegram channel – Indian Express UPSC Hub, and follow us on Instagram and X.