Hi Reddit, I really need some advice about my dad. I live with my dad (58) and my brother. My dad doesn’t have an income right now, and my brother pays for most things in the house. To my brother, my dad’s value seems tied to earning money. Since he’s older and can’t easily find a job, he stays at home all day trying to find things to fix or keep busy. Our apartment is small, so everyone is around each other constantly, which adds to the tension. My dad still tries to contribute so he doesn’t feel useless. He does the washing, cleans the dishes, and cooks every day. My brother often shouts at my dad, ignores him for days on end, and generally makes him feel small. Today my dad said he wishes he didn’t have to be here anymore and doesn't belong here anymore. That scared me, especially because I’ve already lost my mother to su1cide. I don’t think my dad wants to harm himself, but he’s clearly overwhelmed and feels unwanted in his own home. I’ve tried talking to my brother about how he treats our dad, but he just gets angry and nothing changes. I’m not sure how to handle this situation, and living with people who are not on good terms is mentally exhausting for me as well. There is always a fight and I generally try to avoid being home. I'm still a student and I can't help much, I give my full salary of 3k where I can. I also understand my brother's situation, as he's in a stressful job and has to use his whole salary for rent and food. Any advice would be appreciated :) TL;DR I live with my dad (58) and brother. Dad has no income, and my brother pays most expenses and often treats dad poorly, making him feel useless despite helping around the house. Dad recently said he feels like he doesn’t belong and wishes he didn't have to be here anymore, which scared me because my mother comitted su1cide already and someone has told us my dad seems like he would. I’ve tried talking to my brother, but nothing changes, and living in constant tension is exhausting for me as well.   submitted by   /u/qw3rtyuiop33 [link]   [comments]