Often the men are good. They get annoyed at the woman for laying on the couch all day, ordering door dash, only leaving to get her nails done, and not feeding her kids and not having energy for socializing or getting a job and complaining about hed cPTSD and fibromyalgia and AuDHD. And one day, he asks her to please please try to do the laundry.... and they he's an emotionally abusive asshole, and the woman "knows her value" and leaves a domestic abuse victim.